Wait for Mr. Amazing
“Never ever settle—ever. My dad
insisted that it’s better to wait
around for something great than to
waste your time with cheap crap!”
—Catherine Cantave, Silver Spring,
MD
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Love Lessons from Dad
Father's Day is a day of commemoration and celebration of Dad. It is a day to not only honor your father, but all men who have acted as a father figure in your life - whether as Stepfathers, Uncles, Grandfathers, or "Big Brothers." Father's Day is celebrated in the US on Sunday, June 21, 2009. Other Countries celebrate throughout the year.
Singles
share the best love advice their
dads have given…maybe it'll work for
you, too!
In honor of Father’s Day, we asked
daters around the country for tried
and true dad’s advice. Here’s what
they told us:
Beware the b-word
“My father was very adamant about me
never being with a guy who didn’t
respect women. (I wasn’t even
allowed to watch Married With
Children growing up, because of
the way men on the show treat
women.) He also can’t stand the word
b*tch, since it’s degrading. This
has opened up my eyes to the kind of
guys who use the term: Even when
guys use it jokingly, it shows a
lack of respect, and I now avoid
these men.”
—Erika Shantz, New York, NY
Tell it like it is
“When I was 16, I was all upset
because I wanted to break up with my
girlfriend, but was wracked with
guilt over it. My father told me,
‘You’re not doing her any favors by
pretending everything is OK. The
nicest thing you can ever do is be
honest with someone.’ I’ve followed
that advice since then and am really
grateful for it.”
—Daniel Beggan, Austin, TX
See with your heart
“My dad quotes Confucius to me! He
told me, ‘Beauty comes out of
lovers’ views,’ which I take to mean
that when you see the love of your
life, all you ever see is beauty,
always.”
—Chunbai Zhang, Boston, MA
Give him a break
“My dad — a theologian and older
parent — taught me that if a guy is
brave enough to ask you out, and he
doesn’t seem like a total con, he
deserves one date, even if it’s just
coffee and a walk around the block.”
—Sarah Cunningham, New York, NY
Be a kiss-up
“When I was in high school, my dad
told me to bring flowers to my
date’s mother when I was picking a
girl up for the first time. It’s a
little cheesy, but it worked. I
still bring a little something the
first time I visit a girl’s parents’
home.”
—John Wiseman, Tulsa, OK
Follow the golden rule
“My dad told me to never be
too
available; instead, make him work to
get someone as great as me.”
Hang in there
“My dad told me that dating is like fishing: You have to cast your line several times before you’ll get a bite. That helps me from getting discouraged.”
—Johnny Palmer, Burlington, VT
Date up
“My dad taught me that I should date a man with an education and one who has more experience than I have—someone who has seen the world and has already dated plenty of women. The reason? That way, when he finds you, he’ll know he’s got a good catch!”
—Anne Meesriyong, DeKalb, IL
Watch out for weasels
“My dad told me that, ‘If a guy offers to show you the view from his apartment or his incredible fish tank, there likely isn’t either.’ He also instilled in me that I shouldn’t waste my time on someone who doesn’t open the door for me or offer to pay on the first date.”
—Lindsay Craig, Atlanta, GA
“My dad told me that dating is like fishing: You have to cast your line several times before you’ll get a bite. That helps me from getting discouraged.”
—Johnny Palmer, Burlington, VT
Date up
“My dad taught me that I should date a man with an education and one who has more experience than I have—someone who has seen the world and has already dated plenty of women. The reason? That way, when he finds you, he’ll know he’s got a good catch!”
—Anne Meesriyong, DeKalb, IL
Watch out for weasels
“My dad told me that, ‘If a guy offers to show you the view from his apartment or his incredible fish tank, there likely isn’t either.’ He also instilled in me that I shouldn’t waste my time on someone who doesn’t open the door for me or offer to pay on the first date.”
—Lindsay Craig, Atlanta, GA
Don’t work at love
“My father once told me, ‘A
relationship should never be a lot
of work.’ When people would kvetch
about their ‘work-intensive’
relationships, my father would shake
his head and say, ‘My relationship
has never been work.’ I suspect that
if one is, I should run the other
way.”
—Lillie Marshall, Boston, MA
Have escape money
“My dad tells me to make sure that I
always have money in my pocket when
I’m going on a date. He’s old-school
and believes in a woman being
treated like a queen and expects
nothing short of that for his
daughters. But for those times when
you can’t stand to stay out with a
dud any longer, he says you have to
be able to pay for your meal — and a
cab ride if you need it — so you can
escape.”
—Suzan Barnett, Meriden, CT